Friday, November 4, 2011

6 months, how are we managing?

****Periodically I'll try and update how we're managing the triplets plus one in case it's helpful to anyone else. 

Finley, 6 months

Since the boys just turned 7 months, I was about to write a post about how things are going and I realized that I never wrote one for 6 months.

Here's the truth. I can't hardly even remember the 6th month because that's how tired I was am.

Around the time the boys turned 6 months their sleeping habits turned a bit haywire. What I always say is that individually they are each great sleepers! Individually, they occasionally have a rough night, especially when getting a new tooth, have a cold or are experiencing some sort of developmental shift invisible to the eye but which causes their sleep pattern to go a bit wonky. I know this is a normal part of babyhood.

What I've found extremely challenging, especially around the 6 month age, is that collectively it seemed like someone was ALWAYS up. Their were nights that I'd be up from say 2 a.m. until 6 a.m with one or two babies and then the third, who'd slept well, would be up at 6 a.m. refreshed and ready to start the day.

So for us, this time period was way harder, in terms battling sleep deprivation, then when we first brought the triplets home as newborns. As you might remember, for a long time after we brought the babies home from the hospital, Chris and I slept in shifts and that worked well for us. Shifts isn't an option anymore. Early on, life seemed paused in a sense. Chris took time off work and our only focus was taking it day to day parenting our new babies and helping Colin adjust. But now, life has marched on. Life is back to a new normal and life can't be paused for the luxury of sleeping in shifts.

Around this 6 month time there were days I'd wake up after far too little sleep and think, "I just can't do it today." Maybe you've been there. And then, because the kids are calling for you, you put one foot in front of the other and you just do it. We are mothers.

Thankfully, we've had and continue to have wonderful help and support to help on many of those sleep deprived days.

There's something to be said for just getting up and putting one foot in front of the other when the days seem overwhelming and there's no break in sight. Trudging through the best you can, leaning on others who offer help (a hard one for me), and going easy on yourself (i.e. if the house is a pit and we're all still in our p.j.s when Chris arrives home from work and there's nothing to eat but raisins in the cupboard...It's OKAY).

And most of all repeating the mantra, sometimes in a 3 a.m stupor.... this too shall pass..... 

As a side note, around this time period, my friend forwarded me this post from a blog that we both enjoy. It was about all the things we as mother's try and balance in our life: Quality time with our children, cleaning the house, laundry, family meals, work, sleep, time for ourselves, date night, time with friends, exercise, etc etc etc...... and how depending on what's going on in our lives at any given time, some priorities move to the forefront and some fall behind. She likens this process to a horse race and it really resonated with me. The family dinners that I raved about at 5 months? Went right out the window for during the sleepless 6th month! I was just simply too tired. But what I love about that post, and reading other mommy blogs in general is that I realize I'm not the only one who struggles to find a balance.

That's refreshing.

1 comment:

Kathleen said...

I still love that post.... I think it resonates for me during every stage of parenting! Your honesty during this whole beautiful, exhausting, amazing journey is refreshing and so appreciated. P.S We talked about you guys all day as Jack played with his "Colin tools". He thinks they are on loan :)